慢活の龍媽

這是我最喜歡的句子：愛是動詞，不是名詞．

二少出生到現在，我想我比生大少時認命很多了，不再期望有任何人會幫我．雖然有那麼一兩次（比如二少還不到兩個月時，有一次外面突然下大雨，大到紅雨警報，因為找不到人幫忙，我還得背著他出去接大少放學）還是很想破口大罵髒話，大部份的時候，我早已經習慣一個人張羅所有事情，沒人過問的日子．大概兩個多月前，我每天去接大少時，看到一個大肚婆，也和我們住同一個社區，每天也到同一間幼稚園接她的兒子，突然之間，我好像看到自己的身影，覺得她好可憐．其實在香港，大部份人不是有傭人，就是有婆婆媽媽等親戚幫忙，但不知為什麼，我從媽媽和小孩的互動，就看得出來，這大肚婆也跟我一樣孤苦伶仃，沒人幫忙．雖然我們每天見面，但也只是點頭微笑，沒說過太多話．可是有一天，我突然覺得，要是有人能幫幫我，那該多好．．．但既然這夢想不可能實現，那不如我去幫別人實現夢想好了．．．其實我的性格是不太喜歡和陌生人哈啦的，但我鼓起勇氣，走上前告訴大肚婆我的名字，在確定了她生完小孩也沒人幫忙後，我給了她我的電話，告訴她有什麼事千萬別客氣，盡管找我幫忙．在那之後，我們就常閒聊幾句，也透過閒聊，我才知道，她在台灣唸成功大學，有一個姐姐在美國加洲，一個姐姐在台灣．．．我和她說，怪不得我覺得她很面善，很想跟她做朋友．有些緣份，真的很奇妙．

到了她上個月底生了小女娃，我也帶了一些自己弄的坐月子補品去看過她．但前天突然收到她的電話，說是她的小女兒住院了．．．肚子漲的很大，住了一家醫院還不行，得轉到更大的醫院，到現在不知什麼原因．．．所以可能有時她要去醫院看小嬰兒，大兒子可不可以請我幫忙看一下．．．她說小嬰兒因為插喉管餵食，她看了很心痛，所以也不是每天去看她．．．我聽了真的很難過，當然告訴她隨時都歡迎她大兒子來．雖然到今天為止，她還沒麻煩過我，但我真的很高興，那一天我把我的電話給她，並與她交了朋友．　今天早上打電話給她，她說報告出來，小女兒的器官沒有大問題，所以已經放下心中的大石頭，但仍要住院幾天，看看到底為什麼肚子那麼漲．忠心希望她的小女兒早日康復呢！

I think tears almost rolled down my cheek when you walked down the aisle as the valedictorian of your class for your high-school graduation. As a sister that's five years older than you, seeing you beholding such honors really makes me so proud of you, almost like as if you were my own child! I believe that you have always accomplished the “American dreams” that we two elder ones didn't achieve. From taking AP English, to minoring in rhetoric, these are all things that I wish I could have done, but of course, didn't dare to do. When dad called me about the great news that you are, as of today, accepted to the three top business schools, namely Wharton (University of Pennsylvania), Kellogg (Northwestern), and HAAS (UC Berkeley), for their MBA program, we couldn't help it but to feel so very proud of our little sister. No matter which school you end up choosing, we are so happy for you…and of course, when you come out of the business school landing a great job, don't forget to hire me as your assistant! (or at least make me the baby-sitter for your kids) Just want to congratulate our little sister, and tell you how proud we are of you! Great job little! Hey, if you work "hard", you might have a good man, a cute kid, a Masters from a great school, and a top-pay-job when you are just 30!! Now, that's SOMETHING!

每次講到我兒子們或我妹子們,外人大概都覺得我實在超臭屁的…驕傲的勒! 但我覺得如果真的有好的成績,值得讚賞的事,當然不必謙虛啦! 像我們這種 cocky family,人家可真拿我們沒辦法呢! 還在冒泡! 好啦好啦，人家開心嘛！

看派翠西亞的部落格介紹這個網站測試自己的寫作風格,真好玩,所以我也去玩了一下…結果出來啦:

＂語言的智慧來源於生活的積累與敏銳的思維；幽默開心之餘，也能帶來一些思索，此為難得。架構清晰，邏輯性強，情節縝密，可讀性強；詞藻華麗雅致，文風絢爛；在用詞範圍方面可以著重下功夫改進。情節縝密題材的小說值得嘗試，將推理、懸念、歷史的因素摻雜其中；同時也可以嘗試雜文、評論等文體。行文時留心描寫與情節結構的緊密配合，必然會誕生令人耳目一新的作品。＂

嗯,本人覺得蠻準的喔!

Teacher pointed to a picture of a snake and asked Ethan, "So, what's this snake called?"
Ethan: Reticulated Python.
Daddy: Why is the python ridiculous?

Dad was driving, and all the sudden, one of the wheels got on the curb when he made a turn.
Mom: What the?
Ethan (in shock): WOW daddy, that was pretty BREATH-TAKING!

Dad: I had a bad dream last night.
Mom: About what?
Dad: Well, it's like this monster with eight arms and long hair, and I can't even see its face, was chasing me for a long time, and I ran and ran and still got caught.....blah blah blah
Ethan (in awe): WOW, I guess my dream is not THAT bad after all...

我一向很支持有生涯規劃的人.我覺得,雖然人出生在什麼家庭是自己控制不了的,但後天的努力與計劃是絕對有幫助的. 我每每見到那些三十多歲還在猶豫不決,不知要以事業為重還是生小孩的朋友們,我都很想語重心長勸導她們,別想了,趕快生吧! 尤其是年過三十五,事業仍沒啥大成就的人,更別再懷疑了…不是我嘴壞,但如果妳努力了十年都沒達到自己的目標時,it's really time to be realistic and reset your goal!"According to the Mayo Clinic, a woman's fertility peaks between the ages of 20 and 24. However, fertility rates remain relatively constant through the early 30s, after which they begin to decline: At age 30 to 35, fertility is 15 to 20 percent below maximum. From age 35 to 39, the decrease is 25 to 50 percent. From 40 to 45, the decrease is 50 to 95 percent." 也就是說,到了四十歲時, 一個女人有可能只有百分之五的機會生的到小孩. 當然,個人的健康狀況,保養得宜與否,先生健康狀況等等,都會影響生小孩的機率,但幾本上,一個女人每浪費一年, 她的機率就真的小很多呢! 妳知道嗎?當女人四十二歲的時候，她身體裡百分之九十的蛋都是＂壞蛋＂呢！看這篇Oprah的報導．

之所以寫這篇是因為這幾天遇到很多人，看看在十年的時間，不同的人有不同的成就，不管家庭方面的成就，或是工作方面的，頗有感觸．．．也更讓我確定的是，我一定會教我的孩子要有determination.天下無難事，只怕有心人．自己想要的，就要分秒必爭的去爭取喔！不要讓歲月搓陀啊！

我知道大部份網友都是家有幼童的媽媽,所以這篇可以跳過不看啦! 不過如果妳也有親朋好友不知什麼時候要生小孩,也勸勸她們吧!